"I was made to feel stupid"

I personally found my time in the Freya ward more stressful than actually giving birth. I was taken down there pretty sharply after just having my baby, without any time to really sit and think or relax.

Once we were there multiple midwives kept coming in and stressing us out with information I feel I should have been told way before even going into labour. I didn't understand why I wasn't informed of these things prior, and it felt like a prejudice towards single parents, like we are supposed to remember what specific questions to ask while we're pregnant and working full time. I feel some things should just have been mentioned and discussed, a first time single parent shouldn't have to ask. I was lucky if I even had a response from the midwife throughout my pregnancy, and I feel I was given nothing useful the whole nine months, only constant referrals to other doctors, who upon visiting them, told me I didn't need the referral so ultimately wasted my time and energy going there.

Rather than being responded to or acknowledged during the pregnancy, I was made to feel stupid in the Freya ward by midwives I had never met while sitting alone immediately after giving birth. That stress delivered by those midwives stayed with my baby and I for months afterwards causing nothing but more stress for us. Makes me feel sad when I think about how much different things could have been had I not had to deal with any of that rubbish at a time when I already felt so vulnerable and alone.

I can only thank the angels who cater for the ward, because I would have felt completely forgotten about if it wasn't for them bringing me food while I was there.